On Dealing With Grief
We will all experience loss of people or things that are very important to us at some point in our lives, and it is natural and human to experience grief at these times. However, how we deal with it is crucial. It's imperative to deal with grief appropriately to prevent us from making the wrong decision and from eating us up.
Harvey said in Suits that,
“Love is a terrifying thing; it is not safe. Because when you love someone, you must accept that you may lose them at any time ".
Just thinking about it breaks your heart into many pieces. But that's how life is programmed.
As I mentioned last week, the friend or family member may not even die; you may simply lose contact or cease communicating for whatever reason. Your closeness to the person and the memories you created with the person or group of people (as the case may be) can cause pain whenever you remember that you're no longer with them.
But that's not even the point here. You can still contact them if what happened wasn't too bad. But, when you lose a close friend or relative to the cold hands of death, that can be a whole lot to deal with. However, dealing with it is the best thing to do because if you don't, it can escalate and affect you in more ways than you can imagine.
Dealing with grief does not make it go away completely. Dealing with it forces you to accept that the person is no longer alive and that you must move on with your life, regardless of how you feel. It's not that easy, but you have to do it.
In the All-American Series, Coach Baker died while attempting to save Jabari, which caused a great deal of pain for the young man and began to affect him in all areas. It was Preach and Mrs. Laura Baker who advised him to deal with his grief so that it doesn't affect him any further than it had already.
Spencer and everyone else who was affected by Coach's death felt the same way. Jordan found himself walking in his father's shadow, attempting to fix things Coach would not have fixed while he was still alive.
But, until Laura intervened, he kept beating himself up about not being able to fix it. She told him that his father would have also done the same thing he was doing and made things worse until she had to call a professional. That's when he started feeling better about himself and stopped seeing himself as a failure.
It's difficult to know what to hold onto when you lose something or someone important. However, dealing with your grief should come first at that time. Because if you don't, it will consume you. We all process grief differently and must deal with it in different ways. The common ground is that each of us must deal with our grief in order to avoid further problems for ourselves.
How're you doing and how're you holding up at this time? I hope the cashless policy hasn't been affecting you. If you want to know how I'm doing, you can ask me yourself. Thank you.
Till when next I write to you,
Stay Strategic About Your View Of Life.