Has someone ever raised your hope about something and when you try that thing or get in, you end up disappointed? Has that ever happened to you before? Or someone talks shit about someone else and you see them gisting and laughing with that same person? Well, that’s how nondairy creamers are.
Before I continue, here is a conversation between Louis Litt and Racheal Zane in SUITS.
Louis Litt: Do you know what nondairy creamer is, Rachel?
Rachel Zane: Uh...
Louis Litt: It's a metaphor. The first sip, you think it's real, you know? After all, it wants you to believe that it's genuine and it's good and it's gonna deliver on its promise, but then, with time, you realize that it's just a concoction of chemicals that's designed to disguise the truth that it's actually full of shit.
If you view my status regularly, you will know that SUITS is my favourite legal series of all time. Of course, I’ve seen Better Call Saul, Lincoln Lawyer, How To Get Away With Murder, and others. However, SUITS stands out. Just like Reekado Banks, everything they did in SUITS is standard.
But I’m not here to talk about SUITS, am I? Before I continue, how are you doing? Like, how are you really doing? You can talk to me about what is going on with you. I might not have a solution to it but I’m certain talking helps.
The first time I met my stepdad, I thought he was the best man on earth. His smile, reception, hospitality, and friendliness were everything. I thought I found another father. In case you’re wondering, I lost my Dad at 6. My mum moved in with him when I was 12. As a small boy, I felt welcome and I was so happy.
Only for him to switch all of a sudden. The friendliness disappeared. He was just about giving orders and taking out his anger and frustrations on me. My mum was torn between supporting me or him. But I’m sure you know who she supports already. If you don’t know, her husband. Everyone thought I was the troublesome one until my elder sister came to stay with us.
She experienced the hospitality and fake love for some time and was abusing me almost every day because of how nice he was to her. I just kept my cool because I knew he would switch soon. It didn’t take long before she started feeling the heat. I thought he was wicked and he indeed is. However, that’s just who he is and he isn’t willing to change because no one can bring it up. He’s an adult and we’re expected to accept him like that.
The Yorubas will say, Mowa fun oniwa nii je ore jore which translates to “To know people according to their beliefs and character is the means to enhance friendship”.
I met this lady during the 8-month ASUU strike. I liked and still like connecting with people online because I find it hard to do that physically. So, we got talking and we talked almost every day. We shared a lot and enjoyed every moment.
We exchanged pictures, had video and audio calls, chatted till midnight, and did other things. Even though neither of us expressed any feelings, it was evident we liked each other. And thank God I didn’t express my feelings. I was a soft guy then and normally, I’d have expressed my feelings. But I’m glad I didn’t.
Immediately school resumed, she switched. First she started replying late without explanations or apologies. Even with what we’ve shared, I felt like she doesn’t owe me any apology or explanation. But a part of me wasn’t agreeing with that. All of a sudden, she stopped replying. I texted, double texted, triple texted, quadrupule texted, no response. I started making excuses for her.
“Maybe she is busy”, I said. “But we are in the same college offering the same courses with the same time table. She doesn’t have a physical business or online business. Her source of income is her Dad.”
When she finally replied, she said she was busy as usual and when I questioned her, she said she doesn’t owe me any apology or explanation. That the 8 Month strike convo was because she was bored and needed someone to talk to. Omorr, I’ve suffered in the hands of women.
As previously stated, nondairy creamers appear real, but at the end of the day, you discover that they are full of bullshit. It’s left to you to grow and sharpen your discernment to be able to see through and beyond their bullshit. They are not who they say or who you think they are.
Nondairy Creamers are dangerous and they can hurt you in more ways than you can imagine. The hurt might not be physical, It might be emotional, spiritual, psycological, etc. They are in different forms; fake friends, husband snatchers, pretenders, subplanters, friend snatchers, backstabbers, serial flirters, etc. Beware of them.
Till When Next I Write To You,
Stay Strategic About Your View Of Life