I was talking to this guy & he made a weighty statement. He said, "I can never trust any girl I date, because I've thrust other people's babe". I wasn't surprised because it's now the order of the day. Stolen bread they say is sweeter than the one you got by yourself. However, a thief doesn't like being stolen from.
My dear wife, how're you doing? I hope you're good. I'm not asking the question just to start a conversation, & you don't have to say you're fine if you're not, I want to know how you're doing.
I couldn't write to you yesterday because I was exhausted. It's not an excuse so I sincerely apologize. Since we're married, I should be committed to you.
As I was saying, if someone like that guy enters a relationship with a lady, he won't trust the lady not because the lady has any trait of infidelity, but because he feels his nemesis will catch up with him.
See, some people never see positivity in anything because they've fed their minds with negative thoughts over time, engaged in negative vices, & it has become their reality.
Their actions and inactions are filled with negativity & they exhume it daily. That's why people like that can never see the positive side of anything.
If you draft a very great plan, & mistakenly show it to them or talk about it with them, you'll surely regret it. Some people do not have any other thoughts when they see two lovers rather than, "na cry go end am". It's not about the people in love, it's about them.
Do you know the amazing part? It's that you can sometimes be some people and some people can be you. It can be you because you're human. Human beings are configured to see and believe evil more than they will believe good.
For instance, if someone tells you that you'll be $1 million richer tomorrow, you'll be like…
However, if you're told that you might die tomorrow, you'll be moved and prompted to ask for details or a way out. It's not your fault, it's how you're wired.
That's why you need to train your mind to see the good in things and people rather than evil. Your mind is like a child that you need to train in the way it should be. As you grow, your mind will adapt to what you train it to see and believe, & will never depart from it.
If you don't train your mind well, most of the things you'll see in people or believe about people will mostly be a reflection of yourself.
It mostly takes one to know one. If you don't trust people, check if you trust yourself. You don't believe in people? Check if you believe in yourself.
Do you think that lady is cheating on her boyfriend? Did you or are you cheating on yours?
Do you think their relationship will end in tears, did yours end in tears? The fact that it happened to you or that's what you're doing doesn't mean everyone is like that. I hope you learned something.
Till when next I write to you,
Stay Strategic about your view of life.