I Thought Of A Thousand Ways To Keep You

But I Ended Up Losing You…

One of the most terrible things that can happen to anyone is the loss of a loved one. I lost my father when I was six years old, and no matter how strong I claim to be, I miss him. I occasionally cry when I remember some of the memories we made. But what can I do? I'm glad he had the best life and enjoyed it while it lasted.

However, you do not only lose a loved one when the person dies; a breakdown in communication or the end of a relationship is also considered to be the loss of a loved one. What happened to the person you were so excited to talk to a year ago? Do you still talk to the person? Do you know what caused the break in transmission? Let's talk a bit about relationships even though I know so little.

But before then, how're you doing? I hope you're well. How're you holding up? As for me, exams have been choking but I know my God doesn't wear flip-flops.

Everyone wishes they could stay friends with their friends for a long time, but life isn't a wish-granting factory. You don't always have your way. Relationships, on the other hand, can work if we make them work. It must be a joint effort on the part of both parties for it to work. When I say relationship, I don't just mean romantic relationships.

Have you ever noticed that most relationships end with one or both parties giving up? Have you ever considered it? Someone has to stop texting or the other person stops replying. You can try everything to keep your relationship with someone intact, but you can't force it if the other party isn't willing. Relationships should not be forced; both parties must be willing.

When someone in your relationship makes it appear forced, you should know when to walk away. There's a Yoruba proverb that goes, "When the owner of the house starts complaining to the visitor about the state of things in his house, it means he's telling the visitor to leave" (I'm not sure if I translated it correctly). But what's the point of having relationships if they all end in tears? What's the point of being friends if we will eventually stop talking to each other?

Some people, on the other hand, are fortunate in that they can keep friends for a long time. Even if you don't have that kind of luck, you shouldn't be disheartened. Make the right friends, meet new people, invest the same amount of energy in them, and make memories with them. Even if you lose those people, their memories will live on (save the toxic ones). There's something lovely about entering relationships and exploring as much as possible. When people leave, it's possible that they were only meant for that time in your life.

Till when next I write to you,

Stay Strategic About Your View Of Life.